No shame in my game.

 A couple days ago I had a disastrous visit to the plastic surgeon. 
I have one nearly A breast on the left side.   After hearing about the flap & implant options from his resident, I asked about further reducing the remaining side just for symmetry.
 The surgeon stormed into the room, expressed shock that I didn't just get a double mast even though ALL of my onc doctors say it isn't necessary.  And then acted as if getting a left side reduction was as insane as asking to get an extra hand attached to my chest.  He rolled his eyes and head without ONCE looking directly at me.  He huffed, said he was going to help with measuring me and left the room.  I got up, got dressed and walked out the door.
After I recovered from the shock of his rude behavior, I found I was more sure than ever about wanting to just be flat  - even lopsided forever or until I find a decent surgeon. 
I teach high school and have a pre-teen old daughter.  She is awesome - doesn't care about my bald head or missing breast, she just wants her momma healthy.  I'm not necessarily planning to show it off everyday, but if people notice, so be it. I want them all to know that woman can still look good, feel good without having to subject herself to further surgery.   Reconstruction is supposed to be a choice - not a mandate.  There's no shame in being just who I am.